Weddings & Marriages

Growing up, I had always been made aware of the fact that one day I will get married and will start living with another family. And as a 10 year old girl, I sometimes used to cry my eyes out at night while thinking about this, wondering how will I ever live without my parents. But life went on.

In my early 20s, I started to see other issues with weddings and marriages, all the patriarchal norms, sexist customs and that made it all the more problematic for me. Still, I knew somewhere deep down that this is a plunge that I would have to take, one way or the other, no matter how hard I fight back, because it mattered to my family and. probably because I did want companionship ultimately. And life went on.

As a single woman who is fast approaching the dreadful 30s, and attending weddings of friends every other day, my family and I are going crazy about my future. Will I find a guy? How will I find a guy? Are we late? And it is very pressurizing and makes me feel lonely as well. So even though I am happy for my friends, and I do want to get married, the whole thing has started to bother me for a whole different reason now. And yet life is still going on.

But I am not going to talk about how much I hate weddings and marriages in this post. No.

I was just thinking about how when we attend a wedding of someone that we love, and see them get married to someone they love, it just brings so much joy. You are genuinely so happy and thrilled for them, for a new start in their life, for the new bonds that they will be making, for new milestones that they will be achieving. Weddings let you witness everyone related to the journey of these two individuals. And even though it is of no use to meet all these persons whom you are gonna forget the next day and never ever meet again, it is joyous to see how much these two love birds matter to so many people and who are just here to celebrate them (barring a few uncle and aunties there to just diss and comment, and the wedding crashers).

I am not saying that weddings and marriages are the only way to celebrate the love and bond of two individuals. It is a free world, 21st century, and the rules of the society are very much bendable as per our will. But given how I have always hated these ceremonies, it makes me feel good to finally accept and understand some meaning behind it all, to finally see the uniting of love and rejoice in it.

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